Kris Vallotton • March 23, 2018

How to Break Free From a Fear of Loss That’s Reaping Havoc in Your Life

Are you constantly afraid of losing what you have? Think about it: do you feel secure in the things God has given you, or are you nervous that you could lose it all at any moment? I know that this kind of foreboding reaps havoc in many people’s lives. Often times I’ll see people hoard and hoard because they’re afraid they’ll go without, holding on for dear life to the point of strangling the things they’re carrying… or on the other hand they spend and spend because they don’t have a hope for their future. If you can relate then I want to propose to you that maybe the problem isn’t the “things” that you do or do not have, but rather the wisdom you have to carry, grow and sustain your gifts (whether that be favor, authority, wealth or even relationships).

THE WISDOM TO MANAGE WHAT YOU HAVE 

When someone hands you something without you learning how to sustain it, you’ll typically end up losing it or tearing down the very thing you needed to sustain it. This is the difference between someone who has wealth (whether that be financial, spiritual anointing, favor) and someone who has mere riches. Wealth comes with an understanding of how to sustain and grow something, whereas riches gets you the good without the wisdom to manage it. Today I want to challenge you to partner with a wealth mentality in every area of your life so that you can sustain the good things that God wants to give you! Check out this Flashback Friday video for more:

In a nutshell:

• God is a God of sustainability. If you look at earth and the way God created nature, you’ll see sustainable ecosystems all around.

• When you remove one part of the ecosystem, it affects the whole system.

• If you don’t understand the ecosystem, you kill the little pieces that are the catalyst to everything else  that is living in the ecosystem .

• It’s like this in our own lives, too.

• There’s a difference between rich and wealthy. Rich people have money, while wealthy people have sustainability.

• A lot of people become rich, but not wealthy, so then they don’t know how to make money.

• If you don’t know how to make money you do one of two things: You either spend your life being afraid you’re going to lose it, because you have no idea how to get it back. Or, you waste it all (we’ve all heard the story of the people who win the lottery and lose it all).

• God says He’s going to give us power to make wealth!

• For a wealthy person, money is a manifestation of an ecosystem, and they know how to generate it again and again.

• Henry Ford once said “You can take my factories, burn up my buildings, but give me my people and I’ll build the business right back again.” Because the factories we saw were actually birthed in him. He had the ecosystem within himself to recreate what he had built before.

THE KEY FOR FREEDOM IS IN RELATIONSHIP

So what ecosystem is at work in your life? Do you see yourself as a contributor and creator? Or are you rather living in survival mode? If you’re interested in creating an ecosystem of nobility in your life, check out this blog . But I also want to say that a good first step forward in moving from a rich to a wealth mentality is to understand your identity as a son or daughter of the living King!

Today I want to encourage you that the ecosystems you need to sustain and grow in life are very much tied to knowing who and Whose you are. With a strong foundation of security in your heavenly Father, and knowing that He can and wants to provide for you, give you wisdom, and teach you sustainability, you’ll be able to say goodbye to foreboding that tells you you’ll never have enough. We serve a God of abundance! And He wants to lavish you with His love today!

Do you find it easy to build sustainability in your life? How have you broken out of a fear of loss? Tell me about it in the comments below!
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If you want to grow in your identity and living in the abundance of heaven, then I hope you'll order my newest book, “Poverty, Riches and Wealth”, here !  

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